This should be obvious, but we are usually obsessed with just one or two of these dimensions. It could be our height, weight, skin colour, educational qualification, job title, or something else..clothes we wear, for instance (a popular cartoon has a woman saying "I have nothing to wear" while staring at a wardrobe-full of clothes).
We are made up of/capable of feelings too, and evoke feelings in others-warmth, empathy, love, affection, and others. If you are a reliable friend or supportive parent or helpful grandparent, it counts for a lot, no matter how you score on some of the other dimensions.
We probably need a rethink on the obsessions we have on romantic love as well, as it is only one form of expression, and there are many other fulfilling ones. It's fine for the movies, but life is a lot more..
