Dating Versus Marriage

 No, I haven't turned into a dating guru overnight. But thought I would point out a few differences.

1. You are trying to impress a date, and not really trying to impress a spouse..most of the time. Reason is you think you have achieved your goal-if you got married to that person.

2. Money problems don't exist while you are dating. You scramble, and find the money, or you have enough to spare for the project. Marriage, you never know. Depends on whether one or both of you are spendthrifts, or thrifty. Jokes about each other's spending habits are par for the course, as are a few others.

3. A meeting of bodies is no guarantee of a meeting of minds. Divergence in thinking is not obvious at first glance, and only comes to the fore over the long term- 2 years or more. Considering a marriage can be a 30-40 year affair, that is a long time to consider.

4. Short term versus long term is always going to be different. Children also add to the change of equation, or priorities. Raising them require different skills from keeping each other happy, and it can be stressful, because cuddling a kid for a few minutes is different from raising a full human being over 20 years. 

5. My advice for the married-if anyone wants it- is, take it easy. You are not trying to prove anything. Just go with the flow, and be nice to each other if you can. The rest will take care of itself.

Why the Adjective Matters

You could actually make it Why Adjectives Matter, because you are going to need more than one.

Imagine if you were an author. Your most important job is to describe the hero and the heroine. How will you be able to do this if your command over adjectives is weak? Your description will fall flat on its face, and readers will desert you in droves. Mills and Boon, for instance, would be out of business.

Imagine you are out on a date. How do you impress her/him? It is by using adjectives, of course, apart from showing that you are tender, and loving, and that you care. Ae nargis-e-mastana (a popular Hindi film song) is just one of several examples. Your chances of taking the whole thing forward rests on which adjectives you choose to use.

Imagine you are an eye-witness in a court on someone's murder trial (just imagine it!). Most of what you will be asked are descriptions of a scene, or a person-before and after the murder. Adjectives will come in handy, once again.

Hope you are convinced, after such appropriate examples. Go learn some adjectives. They will stand you in good stead.