Showing posts with label Childhood. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Childhood. Show all posts

Colony Life in the 70s

 I grew up in the colonies of Singareni Collieries in Andhra Pradesh, where my parents worked for 30 years. It was smeared with coal dust, and lots of great memories.

We had free coal supplied to homes, and therefore stoves that used coal supplemented gas stoves or electric ones- electricity was subsidised, as the company had its own plant to generate it!

We had clubs, where we played TT, Badminton, and swam. Tennis, usually the elders played. We also met friends, watched elders playing Bridge, and participated in the many events organised by the Club- parties, picnics etc. 

A sophisticated cosmopolitan crowd of people from all over India was around us- and some still keep in touch. Recently met Archana Singh, after several decades. Have met the Ahujas, Talpallikars, Kaushiks and Mahesh Bhogawar, Vinay and Varsha Nadkarni, over the years. 

Fun times, with vacations being a highlight. Subodh, Manoj Bhide and my brother and me played Bridge non-stop and took river walks in the blazing Sun, during vacations. Also watched films in the Club on 16 mm. projectors..

Kothagudem

 I cannot forget this place, as I was born there. In modern day Telangana, it was my angana (playground) from 1960-70 and again from 1977-80 when we lived there. One area we lived in was Writer Basti (colony), and we cycled a lot. Even went to the Yellandu Club a few kilometres away on the bicycle, for a swim in summer!'

Bhadrachalam nearby had a famous temple of Rama. During Ramnavami, there used to be a huge crowd in that town, nestling around the Godavari river. In Kothagudem, we had two rivers- Edla vagu and Muredu vagu, flowing through the town.

It was an idyllic coal-mining town, with the club as its major social activity. But we also roamed around on long walks, or bicycle trips. School was St. Mary's and the nuns were kind and smiling. There was a water tank which all students drank from, without bothering about water quality.



Monsoon Very Soon

 One of the most anticipated events in India is the onset of the monsoon rains from the South-west. This usually happens around June 1st in Kerala, and over the next two to three weeks, spreads across the country. This year, there has been a delay, though there were unseasonal rains in April and May at many places including here at Indore, in central India.

Housing about a sixth of the world's population, we need to grow a lot of food. And the crops are diverse, including the major grains we consume. Though irrigation has improved, the rain influences the output significantly. Therefore, the importance of rains during this season, which support the major growing season. 

Also, a relief from the hot summer! What fun it is to smell the earth in the first few showers! And for kids, to play in the pools that form everywhere naturally, or make paper boats and float them in the water. Wo kagaz ki kashti, wo baarish ka pani, as Jagjit Singh once sang.. a reminder of our own childhood, for many of us.

My Ghati Friends

 Maharashtrians are also lovingly called ghatis (from the ghats), just like Malayalis are called Mallus, Gujaratis Gujjus and Telugus, Gulti.. I am also half-gulti, grew up in A.P. But this is about my ghati friends- so here goes.

Here is a sample- 

Meghana Khadilkar, who I am yet to meet (we met, subsequently). Lives in Pune, with two adorable kids. How do I know? She's active on facebook, that's how.

Kedar Mulay- lives in Thane/Mumbai. And keeps threatening to come to Bangalore- or kept, while I was there - to meet Ishita Modi and me :) We met too, in Thane.. Prof. Jayasimha was with me.

Pavan Tarawade- an author. No more needs to be said.

Pratima Gaekwad- recently met her through our common love of biryani, after I taught her at IIM Indore. (and many times after that meeting)

Kshitija Deshmukh- from Mumbai, a good artist, and former student from an executive PG batch of Indore.

Shraddha Nigdikar- an NRI ghati from Bhopal, who is also into music, cats and cooking. My selfie teacher among other things. I am still learning, Shraddha.. (she's now doing a Ph.D.)

Kiran Kenjale, an NRI in the US. -also called Ken Jolly out there, and believes in All Play and No work- or just a little bit of it. Enjoy life, and travel is his motto. Rubbed off on me a bit- we are friends from childhood.

Manoj Bhide- He's my chaddi buddy too, we played Bridge and Badminton forever in our teens. His mom made us lunch when we camped at his place. Our brothers completed the foursome.

Ravi Gadgil. He's more American than ghati, at least accent-wise. My Golf partner, and great company for drinks. Great sales experience too, so was also a Placement Chair at IMT Nagpur, and MDP chair as well.





Childhood Favourites

 They say old age is like a second childhood. But childhood is quite different, I feel. You are discovering many things for the first time. In old age, you may have made most of your discoveries, but you revert to being a child in some ways, like being dependent on someone. Like a child on its parents.

So coming back to childhood, my favourites were books, mainly, and s couple of good friends who we had in school or back home in the holidays. Learnt to read in the school library, and at home during vacations. Somehow, both places had a stock of books or magazines that I could spend hours on. Also, music took some time, to nurture a taste. Kishore Kumar Khandwawala was an early favourite- I was a teen in the 70s- and listening to the radio was a favourite pastime- it still is.

Comics, of all kinds- Goofy, Little Lotta, Dot, Phantom, Richie Rich, and so on were other favourites, among books. Later, Asterix comics grew on me. Movies- mainly Hindi but some English-were also a favourite pastime when I was in my twenties. I still like the theatre experience, though the frequency has reduced somewhat. 

Another favourite was card games, rummy, various others including Bezique which my grandmom introduced us to, and Bridge, which my parents introduced us - my brother and I- to. Lost touch with this brilliant game now.

Classic Pics

 Some real classics I found recently on an excavation.













Last one has my maternal grandparents, parents, aunts, uncle and cousins of my age group.


Andhra Pradesh- Telangana Et Al.

 To me, it's still one state, and not two. I was born at Kothagudem, Khammam district. Railway station was called Bhadrachalam Road. Singareni Collieries, a Centre-state joint venture coal-mining company, was the reason we were there. I learnt Telugu, and still speak a little, when I find a few who also do, like Siri Adi, my ex-student. Or Jayanti Ranjan, who was a colleague and friend from IMT G.

Anyway, we had a British-built bungalow with a sprawling front and back garden, for a house, the first few years on the planet. I climbed trees, watered plants, and picked mangoes by the bucket in a storm. Learnt photography by observing my parents use a German folding camera, and later, in school, learnt how to develop black and white pics in a lab. 

After 1982, did not see much of the state, though we stayed till 1989. I was away getting an MBA, and later working, or getting a Ph.D. abroad. But my memories of those days -22 years- is still strong, and many of my childhood buddies from those years are in touch, at least on facebook. Met a few over the years too, last in Pune last November. Also had a record player, and lots of records. Developed my taste for Hindi film music by listening, and watching films- my parents were buffs, and we drove to cinema halls in town whenever a new film released. Jewel Thief was one of those, I remember.

Pics From the Past 2

 More pics..my childhood (Kothagudem) onwards-





My sister's wedding (above), and mine (below)



Parents at Clemson with my brother who also studied there.

Below- a Harihar party.




Digging Into The Past Through Photographs

Photograph is more 'graphic' than pic, because it actually shows you a graph of your journey through life. Particularly when you are going through a lockdown like the present Covid-19 -20 one, you have some time to look back at the life you lived.

I have been enjoying this part of the lockdown- looking back at life through photos or pics. It helped that my parents were photography buffs, because that means I have a lot to look back on. Here are a few nuggets..

 With grandmom. (above)
SSB Selections which I failed.. no. 12 (below)


 With parents who were visiting the US. (above), and nieces, ditto, with their parents.


 My first day in the U.S, June 1986, with my brother.
My first day in a Gondola, Venice, 1987.


 Fooling around at a European beach, with sand covering.
My colleagues in ad agency New Horizons, CP, Delhi. (below)


 My sister, wife, and friends, Hyderabad terrace.
Deep dive, Bahamas

 Discussions with Dr. Gopi and Prof. Chary, KIAMS.

 Friends from engineering on a road trip. Srisailam.
Friends from IIM Bangalore, at a reunion.


 IIMB friends more recently, Bangalore.
My only stint in a play -Waiting For Lefty, IIMB.


 Taking a swing. (above)
Launching Marketing research, Edition 4, at IIM Indore.


 Heritage- not just the train.
Me and my alter-ego (below), Bombay Presidency Golf Club guest house.


Meetings and Nostalgia

Nowadays, every meeting that I have is tinged with nostalgia- tells you a story! Anyways, my friend from childhood in Andhra Pradesh (his parents and mine were both in Singareni Collieries), through a few years in the US, and me, met with family after a while. It was great to catch up, with Ken Jolly, aka Kiran Kenjale, and his wife. Thanks to him, I visited lesser-known parts of L.A., including Knott's Berry Farm, NBC Studios, and also took my first Eurail trip by breaking journey in Frankfurt on the way to India from the U.S. Some pics-





In case you were wondering, this was the wine :)


My Childhood

This is my blog post number 1960, which is my birth year. To celebrate, I am presenting a chapter -the first- from my autobiography.


Chapter 1: Childhood

 

I used to suck my thumb. All children do. At least, when I was growing up, they did. And when I grew up and had children, they also did. I played games like marbles, jhaad bunder (monkey on a tree)- where you have to jump on a stick placed strategically under a tree, from a branch above if you don’t want to get “out”- and many of the usual ones like hide and seek (only sometimes it was called Ice Pais, maybe named after ‘I spy’ played in some western countries).

I also vaguely remember collecting tons of mangoes in buckets on stormy nights in a big yard in a big house in a small town in A.P. There were four or five mango trees in the yard. I also watered some plants- I mean with a hosepipe in our front yard. I rode the bicycle very often, when I was old enough to do so. The club (run by the company where my parents worked) was another place I frequented. Badminton, Table Tennis were games that all the kids played, and so did I.

The small town school that I went to was not unique in any way, but it must have been doing something right. For, I did pretty well academically, and managed to grow up without an accent. That may not sound like a big deal, but I was to find out later in life that the early damage that an accent can inflict on you is tough to erase- it’s inscribed on your tongue, so to speak. I felt this most strongly about the ‘mallu’ accent, but many others are equally strong, I guess.

Movies were a strong influence. In a small town and minus television, any Hindi movie that was released (usually months later than its Bombay release) was a must-see. My first distinct memory is of a Rajesh Khanna blockbuster-Aradhana, with its superhit songs and a handsome R.K. in a double role. Another a little later was Anand, with its unique blend of philosophy of life and comedy. Many other movies of the day – Mere Humdum Mere Dost, Shikaar (Dharmendra), Anjaana, Jhuk Gaya Asman (Rajendra Kumar), Prince, Tumse Achcha Kaun Hai (Shammi Kapoor), Jigri Dost, Aulad, Humjoli (Jeetendra), and Jewel Thief, Guide (Dev Anand) followed, along with a lot of others in between.

This interest was to remain with me lifelong. Hindi movie music, captured in its prime by Radio Ceylon and Binaca Geet Mala, a weekly countdown show compered by the incomparable RJ Ameen Sayani, really fired our imagination. His skill with words, his silken voice, and the music…it was a heady combo- subhanallah!

Kishore Kumar with his divine voice was another youth icon that I instantly fell in love with. His songs, many of them tuned by the genius called R.D. Burman, became a rage. From Aandhi and Amar Prem to Kati Patang was a virtual feast for music lovers, and I soaked in every one of those masterpieces. Later, I came to appreciate the more serious numbers, though at the time, growing up, the more exuberant and romantic songs were my favourites- Tum Bin Jaoon Kahan, Nadiya Se Dariya, Yeh Shaam Mastani, Yeh Jo Mohabbat hai, Yeh Jawani Hai Diwani, and so on. There were some good songs from other music composers as well, but the R.D. Burman tunes seemed a class apart. Some other popular Kishore Kumar songs were from the movies Dushman, Blackmail, and Julie.

Bobby was a cult movie of those days. I was as besotted with the lovely 18 year old Dimple Kapadia as anyone else during that time. Many years later, as I was leaving for the U.S. to get a Ph.D., another Dimple movie, Saagar, was to be my last before my departure. She was probably 30 then, but as sensuous as in the Bobby days.

Another interest was cricket. I chose to play cricket in school (HPS, Ramanthapur) at Hyderabad. I was an opening bat, and we played without helmets in those days. We played league cricket matches every Sunday in season, and everybody in the cricket team was treated like a hero whether we won or lost. We had a very enterprising fast bowler in our team, Pritipal Singh Gandhi. His favourite trick was to get the runner out when he started walking out to take a run, before the ball was bowled. This technique was perfected by Vinoo Mankad, and some people referred to the runner as being ‘Mankaded’ when he got out that way.

I fielded in the slips, and one of the horrors of that position I remember was dropping Saad Bin Jung (Tiger Pataudi’s nephew) who played against us in an inter-school match. But I had a few good catches to which I held on too. Harsha Bhogle who is now a famous commentator was also in my rival team in school. Later, we both studied at Osmania University engineering college, and went on to do our MBAs from different IIMs- he to A, I to B.

One of my vivid memories of the cricket outings is when we won the prestigious Pentangular Trophy (this tournament was played between the Public Schools and the Kendriya Vidyalayas). We got treated by the school to a lunch and a movie- Lawrence of Arabia, at Sangeet cinema.

Our cricket coach in school was Mr. Habib Khan- a tall, imposing, focused but friendly guy who coached us all very sincerely, particularly in the basics. I sometimes wonder looking at the Indian cricket team, if they had only learnt batting and bowling from him…..

We had in our hostel a geography teacher we used to call Dracula- I have even forgotten what his actual name was. He was, unlike the name we had given him, very friendly, and used to let us make tea in his room late nights when we were studying for our exams. That was really helpful for some of us “maggus”.

I had been one of the first to join the new branch of the Hyderabad Public School at Ramanthapur when it started in 1972. Some of the friends made there kept popping up in later life. Ram Seshu, who became an advertising whiz kid with MAA Bozell, and Praveen Gottipalli, my friend and competitor for the first rank, who went off to the U.S. and now has a foot in India and another there. Some others, I never saw again.

There was a guy in the hostel, Mohiddin Khwaja, with whom I made good friends. His dad was in Air India posted in Saudi Arabia, and he seemed to get a lot of exotic stuff like perfumes from abroad, which was a novelty in those days. Another guy, Uttam Kumar, became an entrepreneur in Hyderabad with his granite company, but we never met after school. I did meet Srinivas Rao, a roommate who became a homeopathic doctor, and was the son of the owner of the best homeo store in Hyderabad called Ramakrishna Homeo stores on Bank Street. We also had the son of G. Pulla Reddy Sweets’ owner in my class, and the son of a cloth shop owner, Nadir Sadruddin, who always stood out in his terricot uniform.

A lot of teachers in school were very close, as we lived together in boarding school. The Physics teacher, Mr. Chandrashekhar, was a really sweet guy. The English teacher, Mr. Anjaneya Sastry, was at his eloquent best when he taught us Keats and Shelley’s poetry. I can still remember him describing the “little birdie” while teaching us Ode to a Nightingale. He was also famous for certain words that he pronounced in a funny way- for instance, England for him was “Englaand” and his Hindi was also anglicized! We had a very strict guy, Mr. Mathan, for P.T., and his gaze was enough to get everyone **** scared. Mr. Venkiah, the bio teacher, was famous for his long winded sentences, which he expected us to write down (copy) verbatim.

The school days were mostly fun, though I also liked the vacations when one could relax and play some other games at the club, or meet boys and girls (especially girls, as I was in a boys’ school) from other families back home. We had two friends, Manoj and Subodh, with whom we played a lot of Bridge (the card game) during the holidays. My brother and I were the others in the foursome. We played for hours, usually taking breaks only for lunch. It was an excellent way to pass the holidays in a hot and dusty small town. I still miss those Bridge sessions.

My parents also had a lot of Bridge-playing sessions with their friends at home, and I sat and watched these. A lot of the families were good friends, like the Tilaks, the Kenjales, the Kaushiks and the Talpallikars, and we, the next generation, also met a lot of times later, in India and abroad.

A lasting memory of the 1975 summer was seeing Sholay in 70 mm. in the grand old theatre called Ramakrishna (owned by the film star N.T. Rama Rao). The stereophonic sound effects, and the movie itself, were really awesome, and the only comparisons that came to mind were some grand Hollywood movies like Mackenna’s Gold, or Where Eagles Dare, in terms of the impact they had on me.

My childhood was spent in the coal belt of Andhra, in towns like Kothagudem, Bellampalli and Ramagundam. The distinguishing feature of these places was the heat, but there were compensations like the club, good company of other kids, and some scenic rivers- Godavari, in particular, which ran close to most of these places. There was also a picnic spot on the river Kinnersani close to Kothagudem, where the club arranged day-long picnics regularly. I even remember a couple of moonlight picnics, which were a lot of fun.

How to Make Friends

Look around you. Virtually everybody is a potential friend (or stranger-depends on how you look at them). So how do we make friends?

I can explain how I seem to make them. I already have many-cousins, playmates from childhood, hobby-mates, classmates from school, college, MBA class, Ph.D., and so on. So one way is to get an education-plenty of it. The upside is you will make lots of friends.

But you also have that funda about two or three degrees of separation. You know person A, he or she introduces you to B and C. You then have potential friends. Most ex-colleagues are also friends-Shahida, Bhagyalakshmi, Manasa, Murli, SP Kumar, Manoharan, TK Chatterjee, Anant Ram, Halve, Saleena, Jayanti, Lubna,  are some of them. So are ex-assistants or staff colleagues, like Saumya Sharma, Vinod Jadhav and Madhuri Helchel.

Former students who I meet are also among friends. With some, I am more like family, having visited them at home- Swapna (in Singapore), Vrinda and Pallavi in Delhi and Bangalore respectively, come to mind. Sirisha, Shraddha in Mumbai, and Padmapriya in Delhi also. Anupriya and Nidhi Kanungo have visited me at my place in Indore. I keep running into students everywhere on a regular basis, and each meeting is a potential friendship opportunity- particularly after they have forgotten their grades! Some, like Jogeswari and Abhinav, have helped me write cases about their companies, that I use regularly! Planned meetings, I have had with Shafique, Zargar, Divya Singh, Supriya Jain, Pragya Singh, Tosha Dubey, Abha Kulkarni, Khyati Jha, Meghna Sinha,... 

My wife has ex-students, many of whom are my friends now (Vaseem, Vittal). So is the case with my daughters' friends-some of them, at least- I am connected to them on fb.

My book has helped me make friends-I run into people who have read it, and strike up a conversation. Starting with Marketing Research, and moving on to less boring things (!).

My Hindi music group has resulted in my making lots of like-minded friends. It's a long list- Poonam, Subbu, Shiva (and his Mom), Usha, OP, Geeta, Indira, ..

Running a contest for DP Awards on fb has made me a lot of friends (and enemies who spit fire when they don't win!).

And I haven't even talked about Golf!

Quaint Summer Holidays

In the good old days (post-1960, when I began gracing this planet), there were only trains if you wanted to go long distance. And reservations were difficult to get. But we did travel to many places, as my cousins, aunts and one uncle were spread far and wide, not to mention my mother's aunts and uncles. So it was that we covered Satna, Indore, Jabalpur, Jalgaon, Pune, Nagpur, Delhi (on way to a Kashmir holiday, no less, in 1978). Mostly it was in the summer, as that was the only time we kids had holidays. I don't remember the discomfort one bit, though. We also went to Haridwar and Rishikesh one time, and it was a memorable trip. Usually, our black and white camera rolls captured the pics before 1983, when colour first appeared in them.
 After we moved to Pune, my parents' anniversary. My great-aunt is in this one-we once visited her place near Baramati in a bus+bullock cart!
 One of the typical gatherings of relatives-this was in Patrakaar nagar, Pune.
and this is a recent one at my Nagpur abode, with a cousin and hubby. Nagpur being in the centre of India, you can't avoid it wherever you travel by train.

There were also trunks and hold-alls, because we travelled second class sleeper, and had to carry our own bed rolls in those. Stations on the way held fascination for the unique goodies they sold. I remember buying a basket of Oranges from Nagpur on one trip, and an earthen pot of gulabjamuns from Fatehabad or some such place near Indore or Ujjain. Both yummy.

One summer on my internship, I travelled solo to the end of Assam from Tinsukia, and that was fun too. Doom Dooma and Margherita (I am not kidding) were some place names I remember, where I went in (Bajaj?) Matador shared taxis.

Stepwell in Hyderabad

 Bansilalpet has a neat stepwell, and an art gallery that has old paintings and photographs of that area and the stepwell. Near R.P. Road in...

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